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Forget the Team! What
about ME?
With all this emphasis today on doing
things for "the team", or looking out
for the best interest of the "company"
or even "the customer is everything"
sometimes I think that the only one
looking out for me is me.
That means the only one looking out for you is
you.
And if that is the case, and it just
so happens that you're not taking care
of you, and nobody else is, then you
won't be any good to anybody else like
your friends, family or work. So much
for the team.
We live in a society that is saturated in
information and drowning in the stimulation of the
senses. We've got STUFF coming at us from
everywhere, and for many of of us we are becoming
desensitized. Not immune, just slowly
becoming less and less able to truly grasp the
affects, and to appreciate just how much stress we
are under.
The part that concerns me is that there
are many of you that simply are not taking care of
yourselves.
To make matters worse some of you attempt to
justify your behaviour by coming up with excuses
(yes I said excuses!) to give yourselves
permission not to take care of yourself. I
realize that this is probably the direct result of
giving away your personal power for so long,
you've just forgotten how to get it back, possibly
you may have forgotten that you actually have
personal power. Believe me I hear you.
Here are some the possible causes
of your stress and a few suggestions
on what you can do to start reclaiming
your sanity:
The Three Toos'
- Too Much commitment - There
are the personal commitments, you
are only one person after all; stop
doing things you don't want to. You're
a grown up now.if you don't want to
do it you don't have to. Secondly
there are the children's commitments.
Honest to goodness do they really
need to be involved in activities
every night of the week? I mean
is that what they really want?
Even if they do, what are you conditioning
them for. so when they grow up they'll
be even busier than you, and then
when they give out the award for the
busiest, most mentally driven individual
on the planet, they can win?
Solution:
Give your kids and yourself some time
to use your imagination, read, or
even just play "make believe".
Do you remember, "Make believe"? You
play it the same way now that your
all grown up, but you make it even
bigger and better. Why you could even
right everything down in a book, be
certain to put down every detail.
(many of you may already play make
believe as adults. Most people refer
to it as visualization or journaling.
Top athletes, performers and anyone
with a results oriented job use these
techniques as often as they eat)
- Too Fast - Almost
everyone is in a rush.
They go to the grocery store, they're
rushing. They go to the mall,
more rushing. Driving is just another
word for rushing. When we go
out for dinner, it's often a fast
food restaurant or " what the heck
is taking the food so long?". We rush
home to see our favourite shows, we
rush our kids to eat breakfast, put
on their shoes, get to school, get
their homework done and then of course
"hurry up and finish your dinner".
Solution: Really
truly what's the rush? Do you
really think the extra minute you
gain by rushing is helping you? Do
you really believe that your lack
of patience for the person in line
in front of you is going to speed
them up or make you feel better? Do
you realize that perpetually telling
your children to "hurry" will actually
teach them that they just aren't fast
enough the way they are? Stop rushing!
- Too Little - Sleep,
friends, laughter, nutrition, walks
and silence.
Enough said for now.
Friends, please allow yourself to be the
change you want to see, to be the peace you want
to feel, and the beauty that you already are.
 Have
a great day
Until next time
Be well
Jackeyb
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